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Don’t worry friends, though our marriage is not perfect and Eddy and I have our healthy share of disagreements we are doing well and will happily celebrate our eighth wedding anniversary next year but the reality of 2012 is that approximately 50% of U.S. marriages will end in divorce.
HBO’s new documentary that premiered September 20, 2012 tackles divorce and gives children a voice in kid etiquette and rules for families going through or living with divorce.
I got a chance to see this wonderful documentary at a HBO prescreening and was moved to tears by the eloquent words of fifty children ages five to ten as they adapted to their new lives and shared their story. These children may not have celebrated their double digit birthdays yet but they more experienced and aware then their years.
Divorce challenged them and made them grow up faster than their peers. At one point, nine year old Olive says, life is not “always a fairy tale, happily ever after.” Showcasing to parents that they must BE CAREFUL with everything they say in front or around their children because they are listening and our impacted by our words.
Directed and produced by the Emmy-award winning Amy Schatz. Executive producers Rosie O’Donnell and Sheila Nevins and with original music by The Roots & Mossi it was just a poignant documentary that was extremely heartfelt and made me feel for these children and be more aware of myself and my parenting style.
The documentary kid rules included, “Tell me it’s not my fault”, “Don’t put me in the middle” and “Respect my feelings.”
After the prescreening I listened to leading child experts Dr. Tovah Klein and Dr. Ron Taffel as they answered questions and gave advice about divorce and child rearing.
As Rock and X get older we have started making new friends and having more and more play dates. Some of these play dates have been with children from divorced families and at the age of four and one they are not aware of the distinction yet I know the time is coming when they ask me “why do So and So’s Mommy and Daddy not live together?”
Dr. Klein and Dr. Taffel recommended that I be honest with my little men and explain that every family is different but that their mommy and daddy still love So and So AND try to explain that Eddy and I are fine and nothing is changing for Rock and X. Because at that age life is all about them and how everything impacts them.
Bravo HBO documentary! To see the rest of the 50 rules and find out the show times for the documentary visit http://www.hbo.com/documentaries/dont-divorce-me-kids-rules-for-parents-on-divorce/synopsis.html or connect with them on twitter or facebook.
Disclosure: I received this HBO sponsored event but as always my post is my unbiased opinions.